Shifting Your Perspective – 15 Keys to Finding Happiness
When “life happens,” do you know how to keep your head held high? Anyone who has been through difficult times knows that staying happy isn’t about painting a smile on your face. Happiness comes from within and cultivating it comes not only with a shift of how you view yourself but with how you view the world. Life is precious, enjoying every minute requires being optimistic and practicing positive thinking. Below are 15 ways of finding happiness and bringing more joy into your life.
#1 – Be Happy–not because everything is good, but because you can see the good in everything.
As cliché as it is, when something goes wrong in your life, you can either choose to look at the “glass half empty or half full.” By changing your perspective you’re allowing yourself to see the potential opportunities that lie in every situation.
#2 – Being optimistic isn’t always being happy–it’s taking what the world throws at you and saying, “I’m not going to let this get me down.”
Optimism is different than happiness. While happiness can be fleeting, optimism is eternal as it is the unrelenting belief that things can and will get better. Being optimistic is a decision to see the rainbow at the end of the storm.
#3 – “Never be ashamed of how you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion you want, and do what makes you happy.” – Demi Lovato
It’s easy to think that being happy means looking happy. Demi Lovato reminds us that finding happiness is about finding yourself and expressing yourself in any way you see fit. Happiness is less about pleasing others and more about being true to yourself and your needs.
#4 – “Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.” – Alice Walker
Waiting for others to make you happy is a futile endeavor. Finding happiness is a responsibility that lies with you and you alone. No amount of pleasing or trying to meet the expectations of others will change that. Nobody can take away the happiness that you find within yourself.
#5 – “You are far too smart to be the only thing standing in your way [of your happiness].” – Jennifer J. Freeman
Life will present you with enough obstacles–getting in your own way will only add to the barriers. Since everyone gets stuck in a rut from time to time, periodically take a moment to evaluate your life. Ask yourself if you’re truly experiencing the level of happiness you want. You can make any personal changes within your control, and then you can begin to tackle outside sources one by one.
#6 – Find happiness in giving and receiving love. Your future self will thank you for it.
Similar to happiness, love is a foundation of life. Your life is strung together by a certain number of days, weeks, and years. When you break it down, you can see the importance of finding opportunities to encourage and uplift the people in your life every single day. They say it’s better to give than receive, but when it comes to love, reciprocation is key. Knowing how to receive love is just as important as giving it. Finding happiness in a loving, supportive, and reciprocal relationship is a beautiful thing.
#7 – The secret to happiness is finding joy in the simple things of life.
Many people tie their happiness to getting material things they want. The joy you get from having possessions or going on expensive vacations is only temporary. After a while, they’re no longer new and shiny and you’ll soon want something bigger and better. Instead, find happiness in simple things: take time to smell a flower in a garden, bake something from scratch, have a game night with friends. Since opportunities to enjoy the simple things are all around you, it’s easier to enjoy yourself and sustain a happy life.
#8 – Having a happy spirit will help you to see that everything will always work out.
A happy spirit will get you far. It gives you an internal joy to tap into anytime you need. In life, disappointments are inevitable. Having a happy spirit won’t change the difficult circumstances, but it will protect you from getting your heart broken or your spirit crushed. Having a happy spirit keeps your mind and heart from getting stuck in a rut. It allows you to see beyond the bad and anticipate better times ahead.
#9 – Try not to be easily offended or unhappy; what people say about you is a reflection of them, not you.
Reducing the number of times you get offended by others makes a huge difference in your ability to stay a happy person. To do this, you must realize that the harsh things people say are a greater reflection of their unhappiness and negativity, than their true opinions of you. Often the insults of others stem from jealousy and insecurity. Don’t allow people to project their insecurities onto you, crumbling to their words is exactly what they want. The only way for them to feel better about themselves is for them to put you down. If you rise above their insults and immaturity you will find yourself being increasingly confident and happy.
#10 – “Whatever makes you happy is most important. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.” – Cara Delevingne
In keeping with her Paper Towns character Margot, Cara feels that there is not a moment to waste on unhappiness. The opinions of others become noise and chatter in comparison to the single voice that matters most…the one inside you.
#11 – Happy, motivated & successful–this is what your best self looks like.
There is no such thing as an overnight success. Achieving your dreams takes time, effort and perseverance. The road to finding the strength and passion to work towards your goals starts with finding out what makes you happy. Once you tap into that, motivation will rise up within you and propel you along your journey to success.
#12 – Choose happiness by partaking in activities that make you heart sing.
Making the choice to do something that will bring you happiness isn’t always easy. It might not always feel good at the time, but once you choose to do it you will always feel better. The decision to partake in activities that make you happy is an investment in your long term happiness.
#13 – Make happiness a priority. Make it your ultimate goal to find something to be happy about–most of the time.
Happiness doesn’t always come naturally for everyone. Even if you feel happy a lot of the time, make a practice of finding something to be happy about on a regular basis. Always be on the lookout for ways to lift yourself up. Regular boosts of joy will positively affect your level of happiness and overall emotional well-being.
#14 – Take responsibility for your own happiness.
Responsibility is defined as, “a duty or task that you are required or expected to do.” Just like managing other important areas of your life, finding happiness should be near the top of the list. Are you a “people pleaser?” Do you spend most of your time trying to make others happy? If so, it’s time to turn the tables and give your attention, time, and energy to finding happiness within yourself.
#15 – Happiness turns into exhilaration when in pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.
Find your passion and watch yourself go from a generally happy person to an unstoppable force of light. When the fire inside you is lit, anything is possible.