Your emotions are your most valuable assets. How you classify them and when you choose to activate them will ultimately determine your success in a number of areas. Recognizing the power of emotional intelligence is essential for your growth in your professional and private life. It’s all about the ability to connect with the world around you in the most sensible and productive manner.
In the wake of recent tragedies and injustices, social media has become an echo chamber and constant back and forth leading to hurt feelings and miscommunication. We rarely consider how others may be feeling in conflict or how our actions can be damaging. You will achieve peace and effectively problem solve when knowing how to appropriately categorize your personal feelings and that of those around you.
Here are seven reasons why you should increase your emotional intelligence.
1. You’ll Be Less Stressed
When pressure is mounting your anxiety levels are sure to skyrocket which is grounds for an explosion. Allowing your emotions to go unchecked leads to unnecessary stress to your body both physically and mentally. People who have a firm grasp on emotional intelligence can effectively manage stress and handle tension before things get out of hand.
2. Saying “No” Will Be A Breeze
People who are emotionally intelligent recognize the difficulty of trying to be everything to everybody. While it’s never the intent to go out of your way to disappoint those who you care about, the truth is, sometimes you will. How you recover is crucial. Will you walk around feeling guilty? Should you beg for their forgiveness? None of the above. It’s possible to say “no” without accumulating enemies. Your people-pleasing days are over. Find out what works for you. Don’t be sorry. When you’re backed in a corner, being emotionally intelligent gives you proper space to reevaluate relationships.
3. You Will Recognize Triggers
Let’s face it, some of us are walking, talking, ticking time bombs ready to explode at the slightest offense. Certain situations or people can push you over the edge causing you to act out of character. Emotional intelligence won’t let you fall for it. You know when someone is trying to push your buttons, but you know how to respond with the right amount of assertiveness.
4. You’ll Accept Responsibility With Ease
People who lack emotional intelligence blame the world for their problems. It’s hard to see the error in their ways and receiving any criticism is hard for them to process. You, on the other hand, can accept responsibility for your wrongdoing and acknowledge areas that need improvement. No need to be passive or aggressive. When you’re wrong you say you’re wrong.
“You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself, and you’re responsible for the energy that you bring to others.” – Oprah
5. You’ll Gain Clarity
Emotional intelligence often means putting yourself in the shoes of others. Instead of feeling victimized by the words or actions of others, you can determine why they respond to you with certain behaviors. Above all, you recognize that sometimes how people act towards you often has nothing to do with you at all. The art of empathy comes in handy. When you can appreciate and acknowledge the feelings of others, you will gain their trust and respect.
6. You Will Master Conflict Resolution
In the heat of the moment, people who are emotionally intelligent can stop, think, and find an appropriate response to the problems presented before them. You won’t get easily offended or angry, instead, you will take a balanced approach to problem-solving. Respecting the perspective of others will give you an edge over the competition. Above all, emotional intelligence means you can easily forgive, but not necessary forget. Remembering who and what you’re dealing with is key.
7. You Are In Control
You’re in tune with your mood and equipped to handle whatever comes your way. You’re in a constant state of growth and your evolution is heavily dependent on your self-awareness. You can remain level headed and think before your respond. You run your emotions, they don’t run you.