Secrets to Happiness (of Pursuit) Straight from Thought Leader Chris Guillebeau
Want to conquer the world, or at least your very own tiny piece of it? Then get to know Chris Guillebeau, the easy-on-the-eyes, self-helper extraordinaire who pens hard-to-put-down self-help books. His very popular blog, The Art of Non-Conformity, explores entrepreneurship, travel, and personal development topics. At his site you can also download his Brief Guide to World Domination and learn more about the World Domination Summit he organizes each year. As the author of The $100 Startup: Reinvent the Way You Make a Living, Do What You Love, and Create a New Future, Chris is a go-to guru for fledgling entrepreneurs –and “Like a Boss” girls, like you.
I was lucky enough to get an advance copy of Chris’s brand-new book, The Happiness of Pursuit: Finding the Quest That Will Bring Purpose to Your Life. It’s a great read full of inspirational stories of people who find purpose in their lives pursuing their own unique “quests.” A “playbook for making your life count,” it encourages readers to make their lives about something–and follow-up with the focus and commitment needed to make their quests a reality. (Chris knows from where he speaks, literally. He recently completed his quest to visit every country in the world before turning 35!) I was extra lucky to get a chance to catch up with the very busy Mr. Guillebeau to find out about the book’s backstory and get his insights on how we can find happiness and success pursuing our own quests:
DIXIE: WHAT MOTIVATED YOU TO WRITE THIS BOOK? WHO NEEDS THIS MESSAGE MOST?
CHRIS: I wrote the book partly as a way to reflect on my journey to every country in the world—but fortunately I didn’t stop with that. Along the way, I also met a lot of people who were also undertaking quests. Many of these quests were travel-oriented, like mine. I met a young woman who sailed around the world in a small sailboat, and I met a young guy who walked across America. But many of the people undertaking quests had very different projects: to knit 10,000 hats, for example, or to produce the world’s largest symphony, or to train an untrainable horse.
I wanted to take all these stories and combine them into a single message: the story of living for adventure. The book is for everyone who wants more out of life, everyone who enjoys a challenge and wants to craft a truly remarkable life as they make plans for the future.
DIXIE: HOW DOES ONE FIGURE OUT JUST WHAT ONE’S LIFE PURPOSE IS? HOW DO WE IDENTIFY OUR “QUESTS”?
CHRIS: Well, “life purpose” can be a tough one—but I think you start by figuring out what you’re excited about and what you’re bothered by.
In the book we used a checklist to ask people if they might be especially well-suited to a quest. It looks something like this:
- Do you like making lists and checking things off?
- Have you always enjoyed setting goals?
- Do you feel motivated by making progress toward a goal?
- Do you enjoy planning?
- Do you have a hobby or passion that not everyone understands?
- Do you ever find yourself day-dreaming or imagining a different kind of life?
- Do you spend a lot of time thinking about your hobby or passion?
The more answers you say “yes” to, the more likely you are to enjoy pursuing a quest.
DIXIE: HOW DO YOU DEFINE THE “QUEST”? WHAT ELEMENTS SHOULD EVERY QUEST HAVE?
CHRIS: Every quest has a few things in common. First, there’s always an end or final destination. Ultimately the process is more about the journey, but you also need something to strive for.
It helps to have something specific: in my case, I went to every country in the world, not just “a bunch of countries.” The woman who’s knitting 10,000 knits isn’t just “knitting every day.” Having a clear goal or outcome makes a big difference.
Every quest should also have a real element of challenge to it. If your quest is to take a long walk in search of a frappuccino, that’s not a quest. This doesn’t mean that it needs to be impossible—but somehow it should involve challenge, sacrifice, or at least a real tradeoff as you have to say no to some things in order to say yes to the quest.
Finally, we learned something else: most of the time, something else happens along the way. Almost everyone who undertakes a true quest is changed along the way.
DIXIE: IN THEIR QUEST TO BE HAPPY AND/OR SUCCESSFUL, WHAT DO PEOPLE GET WRONG?
CHRIS: They think that happiness is dependent on external circumstances of some kind.
Don’t get me wrong: circumstances matter. It’s a lot better to be rich than poor. But you can also be happy in challenging circumstances, and you can be miserable in comfortable circumstances. In the end, happiness is a decision you make more than a temperature you check. You have to understand what you find meaningful, and you have to take the time to do those things.
DIXIE: FOR YOUNG PEOPLE JUST STARTING OUT, HOW IS YOUR BOOK AND ITS MESSAGE MOST RELEVANT TOTHEM?
CHRIS: The future is wide open. You have on your horizon the ability to do lots of things. And that’s great! Whoo hoo!
But how do you choose? What if some of your dreams and ideas conflict with others?
What I’ve tried to do in this book is to provide a road map to adventure. There’s not only one road to adventure, but there’s a way of living you can embrace that will help you craft a remarkable life of your choosing.
One of the things I firmly believe is that there’s probably more than one way to achieve your goals, and you don’t have to live your life the way others expect. I also think, if you read this book, you’ll find out that you aren’t alone and you’ll feel better equipped to do amazing things.
(OK, that’s my pitch. But really, I wish your great readers the very best whether they want to read the book or not.)
DIXIE: WHAT DO YOU WISH YOU’D KNOWN AT 20?
CHRIS: When I was 20 I was busy learning a variety of skills, some of which ended up being helpful while others ended up being useless. This is fairly normal, I think. But in addition to learning skills, I also felt pretty unconfident and insecure about a lot of things.
So if I could have go back and teach myself something, I don’t think it would be a specific skill; it would be more of a pep talk. I’d say, “Hey, 20-year-old self, keep working on stuff. Someday you’ll make something that matters to people. It’s okay if you get frustrated, but don’t hate yourself and don’t be unkind to others just because you don’t always see the path that lies ahead.”