“You Can Either Be A Wife OR a Boss” – LIE!
For as long as I can remember, I’ve heard in one form or another that girls can’t be successful in business and have a happy home. Even in today’s modern society, here is an inhuman amount of pressure put on women to either be a successful business woman OR a good wife and mom. The underlying message always being that we cannot do both.
You can either be a wife OR a boss.
You can’t be both.
This is such a lie!
This never sat right with me, or my inner feminist that I have yet to name.
It’s sad that so many women still struggle with thing conflict, so I figured I’d share a few helpful tips that will help you get aggressive, kick the negative thoughts out of your head and create some balance in your life.
1. Don’t be afraid to want what you want.
One of the main reasons we don’t always get what we want is because we’re afraid to want it. We, on some level, think there’s something wrong with wanting to be a wife, mom and a boss. There isn’t. We think there’s something wrong with confidently and aggressively going after what we really want. There isn’t. Don’t be afraid to want all the things you fantasize about. Wanting a successful career doesn’t make you a bad mom and wanting a family doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice career advancement.
One of the main reasons we don’t always get what we want is because we’re afraid to want it.
2. Check your circle.
Sometimes the main reason we believe we can’t make it is because we have discouragement around us 24/7 in the form of friends, family and maybe even an insecure spouse. If your friends are always telling you what you can’t do, forcing you to sacrifice and be “realistic” its time to get some new friends. If the person you’re dating discourages you from pursuing your dreams and seems to only support you when you’re taking care of them, it may be time to reevaluate than relationship.
Sometimes the main reason we believe we can’t make it is because we have discouragement around us…
3. Get organized
I remember telling me dad that I was so busy I needed an assistant. He quickly responded, you don’t need an assistant. You need a system!” He was right. When you are attempting to balance ambition with your home life, you must set priorities and organize yourself. Set reminders for important things and be strong enough to say no to anything that pulls you away from the things that are most important.
When you are attempting to balance ambition with your home life, you must set priorities and organize yourself.
4. Feed your inner lion
Once you get it in your head that you really can have what you want, you must push forward. Don’t allow the pressures of life to cause you to lose momentum. You do this by feeding your inner lion – the part of you that eats fear for breakfast and isn’t afraid to roar! Read books that keep you motivated. Surround yourself with positivity and learn how to encourage yourself. Meditate and make use of helpful affirmations.
Once you get it in your head that you really can have what you want, you must push forward.
5. Keep your thoughts in check
Just because you made the decision to conquer one set of fears, cleaned out counterproductive actions and relationships, doesn’t mean there aren’t more obstacles ready to show up over and over. There are always going to be thoughts that creep into your head that shouldn’t be there. Don’t let them take over. Develop a habit of (even if it’s in your mind) speaking back to those demoralizing thoughts and keep them in check.
No more choosing ladies! If you want it all – take it!
Finish school, start your business, fall in love, get married and have your family.
There is nothing stopping you!
Thank you for reading my post. My name is Pamela Shand and I’m a Certified Resume Writer and Career Coach. I regularly write on resume building, interview success and various ways to unravel common and not-so-common career snags.
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